RSS Feed

Category Archives: Uncategorized

Twomey Family Remorial 2018

Twomey Family Remorial 2018

Twomey Family Remorial Weekend had a momentous occasion in having our 5th Twomey Family Remorial Weekend on June 9th and 10th. It was our first landmark anniversary in remembering Con, Baba Oisín and Baby Elber-Marie and in promoting how precious life is.

Screen Shot 2018-05-17 at 22.38.53

Our 2018 Twomey Family Remorial has had numerous highlights. Firstly to our wonderful committee as passionate as when we began in 2014, to see the numerous people who travel to be with us to support our weekend in Meelin and Rockchapel in honour of Con, Baba Oisín & Little Lady is just magical, and behind the scenes the extraordinary number of friends, neighbours, fellow Meelin, Rockchapel, Newmarket and Duhallow people who work tirelessly at making sandwiches, pouring tea, refereeing, stewarding, managing safety, sponsoring food, sponsoring the weekend and run miles, taking photos, tidying up, no doubt Heaven smiles down on them all .

Secondly our Twomey Family Remorial returned to Kilkenny for the second year huge thanks to Nigel and Gillian and all at and VHI Healthcare. Furthermore we branched into Europe with our dear friend and neighbour Norma O’Connor holding a Twomey Family Remorial ‘Sports Day’ in Holland, truly magical!

2018 had already begun magically for our Twomey Family Remorial. January saw the super news of us having Seán Browne and his great team at Newmarket Motors and Volkswagen Commercial support our Twomey Family Remorial Weekend again this year, for the third year, huge huge thanks.


On Jan 15th we received the wonderful news that we are now a registered charity in Ireland. Furthermore, on Feb 20th we received a note from the Revenue who kindly told us that Twomey Family Remorial is approved for the Scheme of Tax Relief for Donations to Eligible Charities and other Approved Bodies. So if you want to donate a “few bob” to us you’ll get tax relief. wink

Screen Shot 2018-03-29 at 22.08.11

On Saturday morning the Remorial supported by Newmarket Motors & VW Commercial, opened with the under 12 ‘Connie Twomey Memorial’ Hurling blitz. St. Marks, Croagh Rovers, Newmarket and winners Bishopstown took part.

This year we were honoured to have Assistant Chief Constable Jim Nye from Devon & Cornwall Police travel over to join in our Twomey Family Remorial Weekend, without doubt Con and my beauties will be proud. Huge respect to Assistant Chief Constable Nye, he very kindly travelled over especially to be with us, to mark our 5th Twomey Family Remorial. We were also delighted and honoured to welcome Chief Superintendent Aidan Reid and his wife Deirdre, Garda Inspector Joe O’Connor and Garda Sergeant Dan MurphyTFR-best-1-101.jpg

Our Table Quiz was hugely entertaining as always huge thanks to our extraordinaire quizmaster Aonghus.

Local musicians led by Kathleen Wright from Rockchapel and Liam Guiney from Meelin drew Saturday to a close with a hugely entertaining selection of music, song and dance at Meelin Hall.


Sunday morning was an early start with a 55k and 110k cycle organised by Twomey Family Remorial committee member Johnny Stack, leaving Rockchapel at 8.30am.

Rockchapel had a magical atmosphere on Sunday morning huge thanks to my dear friend Pat, who was a always Mr Entertaining!

Pat set our wonderful cyclists off in great humour and Assistant Chief Constable Nye officially sent them on their way with some handy words of road safety advice.

Moments before an impronto bike horn sounded to start the race, he vowed to return next year and take part.

4The race start was followed by Mass in Rockchapel.

On Sunday afternoon we had a huge gathering of walkers and runners in Meelin village.

IMG_3055Amongst the wonderful runners we had Sergeant Keith White and 3 of his Garda colleagues in Irish Roads Policing from Dublin.


There were other participants from the emergency services and a gentleman, Tom O’Riordan who had already completed the 110k cycle, just amazing!

IMG_3064There was a beautiful atmosphere in the village as our wonderful walkers and runners returned. They were welcomed back to live music, and lots of delicious treats very kindly and cooked and all monies collected were very generously donated by both Chris and Tom. Unreal!

Meelin village was buzzing for the evening with DJ Liam O’Sullivan and local musicians.

Earlier in May our dear friend Nigel held the second Twomey Family Remorial Run at in Kilkenny Twomey Family Remorial Runs In Kilkenny 🙂

Kilkenny run 2018

This year Nigel and Gillian my dear childhood friend working at the neighbouring VHI Healthcare drummed up over 80 people to run for us, which was truly amazing. They raised an enormous €2,000. Truly amazing friends!

Twomey Family Cheque

Later in June, my dear friend Gary Curran retired from Devon & Cornwall Police. Gary was our Police Family Liaison Officer. Himself and his colleague Sarah were absolutely extraordinary to both families after the crash and in particular to me, how blessed we were that they were on duty that horrific day. For Gary’s retirement his friends at his local church, St Thomas got together to mark his special day. Instead of gifts, Gary asked them to contribute to our Twomey Family Remorial, exceptional to put it mild, but then that’s Gary and his beautiful family.

Later in June the girls primary school in Newmarket held a non uniform day for us, how extremely generous!!

Along with kilkenny, Twomey Family Remorial branched into Holland this year 🙂  Our dear friend and neighbour Norma O’Connor held a Sports Day for us and raised over €1,000, absolutely fabulous. What an amazing girl!

Norma OConnorIn all our events this year Twomey Family Remorial raised €21,060 which will please God help save and enrich lives. Each of the wonderful charities we supported this year

  • Brú Columbanus Cork
  • St Josephs Foundation Charleville
  • Irish Community Rapid Response
  • 3Ts
  • Cork Samaritans
  • Samaritans Festival Group

each received a cheque for €3,510 on Friday night last which will please God help them in the amazing and life changing work that they do.


Indeed our 5th anniversary Remorial was yet another emotional, yet a truly beautiful tribute to honour Con, Baba Oisín and Baby Elber-Marie huge thanks to our wonderful committee and fantastic people in both communities who continue to inspire us at Twomey Family Remorial.

More than 9,000 people from counties all over Munster and indeed across Ireland have taken part over the four years.

Without all this extraordinary help our weekend would not be possible. The committee of Gerard Angland, Dan O’Connor, Tomás Twomey, Thomas Mahoney, Johnny Stack, Nigel O’Donovan & Finbarr Murphy along with Dave Allen our IT expert, do untold work not just in the extremely busy lead up to the weekend but from January onwards when our preparations get underway.

To them all and to you all I personally owe a huge debt of gratitude and I know only too well that Connie, Baba Oisín & Little Lady are smiling down to see the way in which they are being honoured and remembered each year and that we are please God brining about a little bit of good out of our Twomey Family Remorial.


1-Screen Shot 2018-05-05 at 23.13.59

Twomey Family Remorial Runs In Kilkenny :)

Posted on

2017 saw Twomey Family Remorial extend to Kilkenny also. smile

It was fabulous to see over 50 people run in Kilkenny in Twomey Family Remorial shirts for us, thanks to our dear friend and committee member Nigel O’Donovan who organised it with the support of his work colleagues at Their neighbours at VHI Healthcare showed great support for the run huge thanks to my dear friend Gillian and all her colleagues.


Con and Nigel both great hurlers and indeed great pals, had many an enjoyable debate re Cork V Kilkenny 🙂

Without doubt Con was particularly proud to see all the wonderful Kilkenny people wearing our Twomey Family Remorial shirts!

Along with that they raised an enormous €1,350 for the charities we were supporting in 2017, Bru Columbanus, St Josephs Foundation, Reachout, 3Ts and Samaritans Cork. Absolutely magnificent!

Screen Shot 2018-05-03 at 12.41.04

They like us so much in Kilkenny  😉 …………………………………that we’re running again in Kilkenny on Friday 4th May, my goodness, massive and enormous heartfelt thanks to Nigel and all at his great company

And a massive, huge thanks to my dear and lifelong friend Gillian who will be running and drumming up support from her friends and work colleagues at like last year, amazing!

And what about my ‘longest serving’ 😉 friend Mag who is extraordinary in so so many ways! Along with that she is also the reason we got to know Nigel 🙂

…………….Mag, Gill & Nigel …….  All of whom,  absolute lifelong Treasures! and my goodness Truly Blessed to be part of their lives!!




TISPOL European Road Safety Conference 2017 #LifeIsPrecious

I was absolutely delighted to have the opportunity of attending the TISPOL European Road Safety Conference in Manchester again this year. I have been so blessed by the help, support and warm welcome from the fabulous TISPOL Team, Chief Supt Aidan Reid, General Secretary Ruth Purdie and James Lockhurst to name but a few.  The work that they do and the wonderful operations that they introduce to us all, is absolutely powerful.

Personally I was thrilled to see past President, Chief Supt Aidan Reid receive an award for his extraordinary work, not to mention endless service Road Safety initiatives over the years. Without whom, I would never have ‘met’ TISPOL or have had the opportunity to tell our tragic story to the people who can bring about change.

Aidan Reid

Moyadh Murdoch from the Road Safety Authority www. gave a profound talk at this years conference. Of course she highlighted all the great improvements we have made in this area as a nation, but personally I have huge admiration for her in the way that she stated the areas in which we have so much to do. As we all know, drink and drug driving is a huge area to be tackled as she explicitly outlined.

Another moving presentation for me was that of Sergeant Owen Dillon of Brecon Roads Policing & Carl Powell from the Welsh Ambulance. They spoke about an extraordinary life saving initiative Operation Darwen.  Operation Darwen is an all Wales campaign which runs from early Spring through until the autumn and is aimed at motorcycle safety and reducing casualties on the roads. The operation has been a huge success with regard to casualty reduction which is fantastic.

As always Jeannot Mersh gave a moving presentation regarding post crash support. He has extraordinary dedication and passion.

There were so many fantastic presentations and I met some truly wonderful and indeed inspirational road safety advocates, that as always it was my honour to be invited to join them. They have as I mentioned been a back bone to me in my campaign for suicide awareness training for our Police officers here at home in Ireland, in the UK and indeed across Europe. I will be forever indebted to Chief Superintendent Aidan Reid and to Ruth Purdie for the platform they have allowed me to reach the people who can do most to bring about change and indeed training.

Afterall as we say at Twomey Family Remorial #LifeIs Precious


My Campaign 2016

2016 to me personally, was a real benchmark year for my campaign that all Our Gardai and Police Officers in the UK and Europe including control room staff, will receive training in Suicide Awareness and indeed how to apprehend a Suicidal Driver.  To be honest I would have to say that this is predominantly as a result of the truly enormous support which I have received from Chief Superintendent Aidan Reid, President of TISPOL, Ruth Purdie, General Secretary and all the wonderful TISPOL Team.

In January of 2016, Aidan Reid, Ruth Purdie, ACPO National Lead on Roads Policing Chief Constable Suzette Davenport & Dave Jones National Roads Policing very kindly arranged a meeting from me with Inspector Craig Clifton at Dublin Castle. This was, to me personally, the meeting I had wanted since Little Man’s Inquest in 2013. In his closing statement the kind Coroner, Ian Arrow called on the Association of Chief Police Officers “to review please how Police Officers approach Suicidal Persons” so Personally I wanted to know if and what changes had been made since July 6th, 2012. I was very impressed and glad to see that changes have in fact been made and that pre emptive action is what they advise in such vulnerable situations should they now arise. Of course, I would love to see them take a further step and to train all their great Roads Policing Team and indeed all the control room staff in suicide awareness. This I mentioned at our meeting so Please God they will.

May 2016 – I was invited to attend the TISPOL Road Safety Conference in Malahide huge thanks to Chief Superintendent & President Aidan Reid and General Secretary Ruth Purdie TISPOL European Road Safety Conference 2016 #SuicideAwarenessTraining #LifeIsPrecious

June 2016 – 3rd Twomey Family Remorial Weekend– Twomey Family Remorial Has Now raised Over €110,000 TWOMEY FAMILY REMORIAL #LifeIsPrecious

July 2016 – in contact wth Deputy Commissioner Tristian Knight of the Metropolitan Police regarding Suicide Awareness Training

– I was almost moved to tears when I was mentioned in a tweet by a Police Officer TPAC, Stinger, Pursuit Tactical Advisor & Advanced Police Driver Trainer in North West England who described my story as driving them to do more in their own work. It’s great to see awareness developing. A few weeks later he tweeted that as part of the TPAC training he was giving mentioned our tragic story. To me personally that our tragic story was used as a part of Police Training as to how something utterly devastating may result in such a scenario is great awareness, and I really admire the openness to to using it. Please God it will help some Police Officer and indeed the vulnerable person they may encounter! Personally, To know that Con, Baba Oisin and Little Lady have left such a mark is super!

– I contacted Jeannot Mersch, President of the European Federation of Road Traffic Victims. He kindly promised to place an article on this in their newsletter with a link to the TISPOL video. He outlined to me that at their AGM in September in Lisbon, he would put the topic on the agenda which is great toward increasing awareness. He mentioned that there have been different suspected cases in France like here, of predominantly young male single vehicle accidents where as he put it ” the driver voluntarily crashes into a tree, and also where there have been drivers who entered the motorway the wrong way and proceeded driving until crash impact.

– I also contacted Ellen Townsend, President of the European Transport Safety Council, she also kindly offered their help with regard to helping create awareness and encouraging training for Police in Suicide Awareness. he has asked me for some information on the ASIST Training and has kindly said that they will use it to promote using it within Police Training which would be fantastic. She also told me about their UK member PACTS who recently organised a lecture in partnership with The Samaritans on Suicide In Transport. It’s frightening to read that they suspect approximately 650 cases of suspected suicidal driving across England in one year

October 2016 –  I was kindly invited to return to Manchester for the TISPOL Road Safety Conference this year, again massive thanks to Chief Superintendent Aidan Reid and General Secretary Ruth Purdie. The speakers and stories were utterly heart clenching, the awareness they are creating and implementing is utterly extraordinary. Admiration in a word!

There I got to meet with some wonderful Irish, British and European Gardai and members of the Police Service along with members of the Road Safety Authority, and many other great road safety advocates. Some of whom I would have met last year at the TISPOL Conference TISPOL European Policing Road Safety Conference 2015 #SuicideAwarenessTraining #LifeIsPrecious It was great to catch up with them and to hear how their work is developing.

At The Conference Dinner they really surprised me at the awards presentations by presenting me with this lovely piecetispol

Needless to mention, I was shocked, surprised, completely overwhelmed not to mention extremely emotional to be honest. What I have been doing with the campaign is not in my mind award material it’s just about creating awareness and trying to prevent such a devastating tragedy from happening in the future. I honestly want My Beauties, Con, Baba Oisin and Baby Elber-Marie to have left their mark on the world as they’ve done and do on mine! It was honestly extremely kind of them but more importantly for me, it was so moving, for me personally, to see how much they believe in the merit of my campaign for suicide awareness training and addressing suicidal drivers to be part of Garda and Police Officer training.


November 2016 – I was kindly invited by the Road Safety Authority to their Launch of World Day Of Remembrance for Road Traffic Victims, an audience with Christy Moore at Smock Alley on November 17th. This was a very moving event, and I certainly admire the work the RSA are doing in making this dreadfully sad yet needful day be marked so well.

At their launch, I met with some wonderful people who have also become so so involved in Road Safety initiatives of their own, owing regretfully to their own family tragedies. The work they have done and achievements they have made are remarkable. No doubt their loved ones RIP are very proud. There I also had the pleasure of meeting with the formidable Donna Price, Irish Road Victims Association, who has dedicated unreal time to a cause very close to us all, and achieved so so much, a truly wonderful lady.

TISPOL European Road Safety Conference 2016 #SuicideAwarenessTraining #LifeIsPrecious

Heartfelt Thanks to President of TISPOL Chief Superintendent Aidan Reid, General Secretary Ruth Purdie & All at TISPOL European Traffic Police Network for their really kind invitation to their International Road Policing Conference in Malahide, Dublin on May 25th.

During the conference I had the pleasure of listening to presentations outlining the fantastic work that is being done by Police Forces at home with An Garda Siochana and beyond wth the aim of reducing the risk to all of us on our roads.

TISPOL  launched Project #Edward  in Dublin.

TISPOL’s Project Edward is European Day Without A Road Death which is set for Wednesday 21st September 2016. They are encouraging us all to make a Road Safety Pledge.

I’ve made the pledge and I would genuinely encourage you all to do so!

Imagine, if we could have one day without a fatality!

One day where homes and hearts aren’t irreversibly shattered when a knock comes to the door to say that a loved one has been lost in a tragic crash!

No doubt with the efforts toward road safety awareness that TISPOL and their European Road Safety Colleagues ETSC are making, I have no doubt but that it will be a huge success. Honestly I think we must all make the effort to ensure it will happen. It’s not just their responsibility, personally I think we all have our own role to play in it’s success.

Please be sure and make that pledge #edward 🙂

On another note, it was extraordinary for me to meet with some of the lovely people that I had the opportunity to give my presentation to and chat with last October in Manchester. I was really pleased that they remembered my thoughts on suicide awareness training for all police forces and thankfully saw value in them.

They kindly asked me to have a chat with them about my campaign and raising police awareness of suicide issues.

I am eternally grateful to President Aidan Reid, General Secretary Ruth Purdie and the team at  TISPOL for all their help and support not to mention the fantastic opportunities they have given to me, to tell our tragic story and to express my thoughts on the need for suicide awareness training for all Police Officers.

#SuicideAwarenessTraining For All The Emergency Services

As You Know, I have been campaigning that All Our Gardai & Police Officers be trained in Suicide Awareness and in how to approach a Suicidal Driver.

However I have learnt, that training in Suicide Awareness is extremely necessary for All First Responders also.

Our First Responders in the fire and ambulance services in Ireland, are very often
the first to the scene of a incident where someone has indicated an intention to take their own life.

It wasn’t until I spoke with one of these first responders at a conference ,that I realised the gap in training that exists for them in this area also.

I spoke with Emergency Services Ireland about the Huge Need for Suicide Awareness Training for their Great Members:

TISPOL European Policing Road Safety Conference 2015 #SuicideAwarenessTraining #LifeIsPrecious

On October 6th 2015, With Huge Thanks to President Aidan Reid & General Secretary Ruth Purdie,

I was kindly invited to speak in Manchester, at The TISPOL European Policing Road Safety Conference on Vulnerable Road Users & Driver Suicide.


I briefly outlined why I have been campaigning for Police Forces across Europe to be trained in suicide awareness and in how to apprehend a suicidal driver.

This is because on July 6th 2012, at 2.47 pm, whilst on our family holiday in Devon, England, my family and I were involved in a tragic collision with a suicidal driver. The crash claimed the life of our precious 16 month old son Oisín and his beautiful unborn sister and left my husband Con and I fighting for our lives. Con never recovered from his injuries and regretfully died almost 10 months later.


Having looked at European Road safety Statistics 2014, whilst
it is fantastic and indeed a credit to all, that road deaths
are on the decrease with a number of years, yet tragically in
2014, 25,700 road fatalities were reported across the European
Personally, I would worry that looking at these facts and
indeed the prevalence of suicide among males, that cars have
indeed been used by some people of suicidal ideation. Since
our family tragedy in 2012, I have regretfully come across a
number of instances where this has been the case.
This created an awareness in me that, undoubtedly, Police
Officers are regularly called upon to locate, control and try to
bring to a safe conclusion such volatile situations. Because of
this, I have become involved with suicide support groups and
working to encourage Police forces to incorporate the

following in their training:

  • Suicide awareness training for all their members
  • To address vulnerable road users and suicidal drivers
  • To mention the impact that Police drivers can have on others.
Stressing the sad reality that cars have and can be used as a
lethal weapon, personally I would like to see that the
‘principle of least intrusion’ become the accepted code and
part of the training for dealing with vulnerable road users and
drivers who are known or suspected to be suicidal, and that
this approach and training be extended European wide.
Reality is that not all suicidal or indeed vulnerable people can
be saved, but this training will be of huge benefit to assist the
Police Officer who has to encounter such a stressful situation,
as indeed it may help the vulnerable or suicidal person that

they may encounter.

According to the official take on what happened, nobody did
anything wrong, my family’s death was unavoidable, and
there was nothing they could do. I believe differently – not
because I want to blame someone. It’s simply because
everyone should learn from what happened on July 6th
and I want to do all I can to make sure no other family has to
go through what my family had to go through, or indeed that
no other police officer has to go through this either.


Our Story & What Led Me To Campaign For #SuicideAwarenessTraining #LifeIsPrecious

The  following is a link to TV3 Disclosure ‘The Elber Twomey Story’.


This documentary tells our horrific story with regard to the tragic events that led to our crash on July 6th 2012 and indeed how it led me to campaign for suicide awareness training for all our Gardaí, Police Officers in the UK and beyond, and that my hope is that they will address the suicidal driver in this training. My thinking being that this training is to help and support the Garda/Police Officer who is faced with such a stressful situation along with hopefully helping the suicidal person that they may encounter.

It includes great interviews with my brother Tomás, close friends of Con’s, Thomas and Michael, wonderful nurses from Torbay Hospital who looked after us in the aftermath of our crash, along with Chief Superintendent Jim Nye of Devon & Cornwall Police and Superintendent Patrick McCabe from the Garda Training College in Templemore in Ireland.

It also features great moments from our weekend which we run in June. The aim of the weekend is to Remember with Love and to Honour Con, Baba Oisín & Baby Elber-Marie & to promote the reality of how precious life is. The funds we raise from our weekend have gone to help the Hospitals who looked after us following the crash, Brú Columbanus in Cork who provide home from home accommodation for relatives of seriously ill patients in the Cork hospitals along with great suicide support groups – Reach Out, 3T’s, Suicide Aware in Cork & Pieta House


Invitation To Devon & Cornwall Police


Last week I was kindly invited to Devon & Cornwall Police by Chief Superintendent Jim Nye to see the police driver training that they do now. Personally I was very impressed with their driver training. I did remark to Chief Supt Nye that I would like to see their officers trained in suicide awareness. I explained that I am aware of the pressure a police officer is under when they are confronted by this issue and my campaign is aimed at raising awareness of the stigma that mental health causes. I told Chief Supt Nye that personally I honestly feel that training in suicide awareness is as much to help the police officer as indeed the suicidal person/driver they may encounter. I remarked that I am very aware that not all suicidal people can be saved but that I feel that training in suicide awareness and promoting the principal of least intrusion in dealing with a suicidal driver would I feel be of huge benefit to the police officer should they encounter such tragic and extremely stressful scenarios.

I Spoke at Devon & Cornwall Police about the Campaign:

Chief Superintendent Jim Nye Talks about the Training Programme:

Invitation To Speak In Templemore To The Garda Driving Instructors

Last month I was kindly invited to Templemore by Superintendent Pat McCabe to address the Garda driving instructors. I spoke to them on my experience and our tragedy. I outlined the events leading up to our crash and how cctv footage from that day showed that Marek RIP had driven 12 circuits along Hamelin Way that day without doing anything wrong. The only difference in the last circuit was police presence.
I explained that I respect that not every Suicidal person can be saved but that I do believe that training in suicide awareness in the college and across the force is hugely important. I told them that I was delighted to learn from Superintendent McCabe that the new BA in policing students now undertake Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training (ASIST) and that I hope that this training will be rolled out across the force.
I said that in addition to this training I think it is of huge importance that when they are instructing Garda drivers that they address the suicidal driver and the impact that Garda drivers can have on others. Stressing the sad reality that cars can be used as a lethal weapon, I explained that I would like to see the principal of least intrusion adopted in this scenario.
Personally, I honestly believe that this training in suicide awareness and addressing the suicidal driver is as much to help the poor Garda / Police Officer as indeed the suicidal person they may encounter.
The fact that I was kindly invited by Superintendent McCabe to speak with the Garda driver trainers is an extremely positive development in the campaign, of which I am most grateful, and I do hope that I will continue to have an input with Superintendent McCabe and his great training team on this hugely important issue.

%d bloggers like this: